Queer "Patriarchy"
Sometimes, being a queer woman with a lot of gay male friends is hard. It feels like when typing this, I'm like "woe is me," and I don't want to come off like that. It's more like even in queerdom (which took a while to even realize) the patriarchy reigns supreme. I've had a delightful day of adventures and working, but with another day off, I'm not quite ready to go home. So, what do I do? I head to a gay bar ..a male dominant one. I live in a place with one of the few truly lesbian/queer women friendly bar left in the US and yet instead of being a patron there, I went to the gay bar. Yes, it is closer to home, but from where I am coming from...does it really matter geographically? If I'm honest...no not really. Why is it that even when the opportunity presents itself for me to make the full-fledged decision to be in my fullness, I still shy away? I still default to the "norm"? I still deny myself? There's a small part of me who ackno...